Real Life With Katie Marie

Until you’ve been there, you can’t begin to understand the complexities involved.

People often ask, “why doesn’t she just leave?” or “why did she stay?”

The answer to that question is never simple. We each hold our own stories, our own reasons why. 

It takes an average of 7 times for a woman to leave and not return. It’s not just as simple as leaving. Especially when children are involved. I thought about it many times over the course of my 11 year marriage. Even him threatening my life wasn’t enough for me to completely cut him off. It took CPS and a friend losing her life at the hands of her mentally ill husband for me to say NEVER AGAIN. 

If you are in a relationship where any of these statements hit home, please know you aren’t alone in your experience and that while leaving is scary, there are people out there to help and IT IS WORTH IT. 

If you are the one watching from the outside and asking why she hasn’t left, please understand that it is not an easy thing to do. Instead of judging her, be there for her and offer her help when she is ready. 

And if you can can relate to this post because you are a survivor, I am so proud of you.  The strength it takes to leave and stay gone is like no other and it is something you don’t know you can do until you do it. If you feel like sharing, I’d love to hear why YOU stayed AND why you finally left.